Revere your time spent reminiscing.
With little effort one can recall the delightful sensations of a crisp autumn morning when of school age. The air cool on your skin, with grass still holding the last drops of morning dew, perhaps with a knitted jumper, hugging tightly to your body.
It’s not difficult to immerse our thoughts in the happy echoes and recollections of the past. But what is often forgotten or entirely omitted, is the unhappiness that accompanied those same fond memories, for nostalgia has an undeniably unique way of softening the rough edges of our past.
Jack Fyock once said that ‘if you see the world in black and white, you’re missing important grey matter.’ But when we look back at scenarios, it is natural to question which emotions are most accurate, because ‘grey’ is an area often too difficult for our minds to process.
We know how to accurately delineate what a good day looks like and what constitutes a particularly bad day. The question that remains is how do we let them properly coincide in this grey area? How do we honor an experience in its entirety, and therefore prevent a time or a place from becoming merely a figment of our nostalgia?
For our minds create feelings of nostalgia as a form of protection to our inner-selves, to only remember the fonder times. For in reality, nobody outwardly strives for a bittersweet life at best. However, what if there were delicate intricacies about ourselves that can be learned from the difficult moments in our lives when we properly learn the art of reflection?
This is why some of us only come to realize years later, on an unassuming walk alone what a specific exchange genuinely meant to us or why something somebody said irked us in such a prodding and unexplainable way at the time.
To allow for proper and intended reflection, we must deliberately carve out time for such solitude to enable ourselves to assess our thoughts that are patiently sitting in their unprocessed form. To, without judgment or bias, to take note of the woven complexities of our lives. We cannot constantly be in the company of others and expect our thoughts and feelings to unravel themselves, or to inherently gain a fresh perspective without first attempting to process our interactions from different angles. Reflection requires intention.
With increased experience in reflection, we learn that the positive aspects of our lives are never too far from being intertwined with the negative ones. Perhaps with this knowledge, we can prevent ourselves from getting swept up into feelings of nostalgia from times long-past and can instead focus on the essence and brevity of the current day. The goal to strike a unique cadence with our lives, to not brush away the bad times but to understand that somewhere nearby, there must be good too.
Words | Malinda Meadows
” When we move too fast and do too much, there is no room for analysis. ”
— MALINDA MEADOWS